For Professional Caregivers
(Underlined/highlighted books are available from the A Place To Remember www bookstore.)

A Caregiver's Handbook to Perinatal Loss, Gary E. Vogel, 1996. A Place to Remember, 1885 University Ave., Suite 110, St. Paul MN 55104, (800) 631-0973. Written by a psychotherapist, it is the perfect book for every caregiver who comes in contact with the bereaved family—all the way from the scheduler at an OB's office, to the physician, funeral director, clergy, and even the hospital billing department. Every page is brimming with constructive suggestions on what to say or do, as well as what not to say or do.

A Most Important Picture - a very tender manual for taking pictures of stillborn babies and infants who die, Joy and Marvin Johnson, Chaplain James Cunningham, Irwin J. Weinfeld, 1985. Centering Corp., Omaha, NE. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. An instructional manual for perinatal caregivers that illustrates various ways of taking pictures which will be supportive and affirming to the grieving family.

After Loss, parenting in the next pregnancy - A manual for professionals working with families in pregnancy after loss, Joann O'Leary, Lynnda Parker, and Clare Thorwick, Edited by Kathy Carlson, 1998. Allina Health System, Minneapolis MN. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. The manual suggests a new framework to consider the behaviors of parents in a pregnancy subsequent to loss. With a belief that parents' anxiety, fear and renewed grief are all normal, concepts are base don the work of psychological theorists, nurses, infant mental health specialists and refined through the clinical observations of families.

Bereavement Ministry Program: A Comprehensive Guide for Churches, Jan C. Nelson and David A. Aaker, 1998. Ave Maria Press.

Bereavement: Studies of Grief in Adult Life, C.M. Parkes, 1972. International Universities Press, Inc., New York, NY.

Bereavement and Support: Healing in a Group Environment, Marylou Hughes, 1995. Taylor & Francis, Bristol, PA. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. This book presents a theoretical overview, examines the benefits and variety of support group types and the specifics for initiating, organizing, and running them. Deals with everything from publicity to participant screening. Includes comprehensive bibliography.

Comprehensive Neonatal Nursing, A Physiologic Perspective, Carol Kenner, Ann Brueggemeyer, Laurie Porter Gunderson, 1997. Available from Childbirth Graphics (800) 299-3366, ext. 287. This huge volume (1218 pgs) will be a valuable addition to your nursing reference library despite its price (over $100). Organ systems, new technology, genetics, legal issues, assessment, parenting, and more.

Continuing Bonds: New Understandings of Grief, ed. Dennis Klass, Phyllis R. Silverman, and Steven Nickman, 1996. Taylor & Francis, 1900 Frost Road, Suite 101, Bristol, PA 19007-1598. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. This book gives voice to an emerging consensus among bereavement scholars that our understanding of the grief process needs to be expanded. Presentations from 22 authors, demonstrates that the healthy resolution of grief enables one to maintain a continuing bond with the deceased.

Coping with Infant or Fetal Loss: The Couple's Healing Process, Kathleen R. Gilbert and Laura S. Smart, 1992. Brunner/Mazel Publications, New York, NY. A source of help for the couple in crisis and for those who want to lend support. This book outlines step-by-step guidance to an effective grieving process and demonstrates clearly that there is more than one path to healing.

Dimensions of Loss and Death Education: Curriculum and Resource Guide, Patricia Zalaznik, 1992. Edu-Pac Pub., Minneapolis, MN.

Disenfranchised Grief, Kenneth J. Doka, 1989. Lexington Books, 866 Third Ave., New York, NY. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670.Compilation of well-researched articles that illustrate the impact of disenfranchised grief. Topics include: grief of the developmentally disabled, loss of a companion animal, grief and elective abortion, AIDS related grief and the grief of lovers and friends.

Early Pregnancy Loss: Mechanisms and Treatment, R.W. Beard and F. Sharp, 1988. Springer Verlag.

The Encyclopedia of Adoption, Christine Adamec and William L. Pierce, 1991. Available through Tapestry Books, (800) 765-2367. This extensive resource examines the social, legal, economic, psychological and political issues that surround adoption.

Ethnic Variations in Dying, Death and Grief, edited by Donald P. Irish, Kathleen Lundquist, Vivian Jenkins Nelson, 1993. Taylor and Francis, Bristol, PA. Offers extensive and detailed information to professionals who want and need to understand the cultural patterns and backgrounds of the families they work with. Excellent presentation of funeral information, belief systems and customs.

Gift of Tears, Susan Lendrum and Gabriel Syme. Available from Centering Corp., (402) 553-1200. Counseling is most effective when you can offer complete, unconditional acceptance, feel and communicate understanding.

Giving Care, Taking Care, Sherokee Ilse, 1996. Wintergreen Press, Maple Plain, MN. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. This encouraging book is written for the professionals and lay persons who give of themselves, but who must be reminded to "fill their own wells." A practical guide for all professionals whose job includes the giving of themselves during the most stressful times in other peoples lives. How can professionals provide the most optimal care for others if they don't take care of themselves first?

Grief, Dying and Death: Clinical Interventions for Caregivers, Therese A. Rando. Available from Centering Corp., (402) 553-1200. This one guides the caregivers to examine their own feelings of death, helping the dying patient and supporting the griever. Personal and ethical issues are covered in over 500 pages of text.

Grief Counseling, Grief Therapy, J. William Worden, 1991. Springer Publication Co., New York, NY. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Describes the mechanisms of grief and the procedures for helping bereaved people accomplish the "tasks of mourning" so that grieving can be accomplished. Also provides critical assessment information to help the caregiver recognize and intervene in exaggerated, chronic, masked and delayed grief reactions.

Healing the Bereaved Child: Grief Gardening, Growth Through Grief, and Other Touchstones for Caregivers, Alan Wolfelt, 1996. Accelerated Development, 1900 Frost Road, Suite 101, Bristol PA 19007-1598, (800) 821-8312. Newly updated guide to caring for children covering the 12 dimensions of childhood grief. Must-read for all counselors, hospice workers, funeral home staffers, and teachers.

Helping the Bereaved Celebrate the Holidays, James Miller, 1992. Augsburg Fortress Publishers, 426 South 5th St., Minneapolis, MN 55415. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. A Source book for organizations and churches to help plan educational and commemorative services.

Helping Bereaved Children: A Handbook for Practitioners, Nancy Boyd Webb, 1993. Guilford Press, New York, NY. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Uses counseling techniques and therapeutic interventions for practitioners to help children who have suffered a loss.

Health Provider's Manual for Helping After Perinatal Death, HAND. 1988. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. Comprehensive booklet provides the health care provider with valuable information for supporting parents suffering from a perinatal death.

High Risk and Critical Care Intrapartum Nursing, Lisa K. Mandeville and Nan H. Troiano, 1998. Lippincott-Raven Publishers.

High Risk Perinatal Home Care Manual, Mary Ann Chestnut, 1998. Lippincott-Raven Publishers. Including a perinatal home care program, perinatal universal home risk assessment, patient eligibility in the home monitoring program, invasive procedures, protocols for the high risk woman, etc.

Hospital Care of the Recovering NICU Infant, M. Douglas Jones, Christine A. Gleason, and Susan U. Lipstein. Book News Inc., Portland OR. Considers the pathophysiology and frequently encountered medical conditions, but also psychosocial and neurodevelopmental aspects.

How To Take Care Of You... So You Can Take Care Of Others, Sue Vineyard, 1989. Heritage Arts Publishing, Downs Grove, IL. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Practical book providing specific ideas for self care. Excellent book that is invaluable in designing courses and presentations on stress and self care.

Infertility: Psychological Issues and Counseling Strategies, Sandra R. Leiblum, 1997. John Wiley and Sons, New York, NY. Explores how infertility affects relationships and supplies practical clinical advice on how to help clients. Topics include gender differences, effects of infertility on sexual desire, and gay and lesbian parenting.

Infertility and Pregnancy Loss: A Guide For Helping Professionals, Constance Hoenk Shapiro, 1988. Jossey-Bass Publishing, San Francisco, as part of the Social and Behavioral Science/Health Series.

Interventions with Bereaved Children, Susan C. Smith and Sister Margaret Pennells, 1995. "If you have ever foundered when faced with a grieving child, this book is for you. Equipped with a wealth of practical and compassionate responses... This is an empowering book, which should be accessible to all those who come into contact with children." (Nursing Times)

Journey of the Heart: Stories of Grief as told by Nurses in the NICU, editor Andrew Todd, 1995. Vanderbilt University Medical Center, Nashville, TN 37232-2505. Available from A Place To Remember, (800) 631-0973. Relates the stories of grief as told in the words of the nurses themselves. Although this interview format can sometimes be cumbersome, there is no doubt that the power of the nurses words are made more poignant when we "hear it like it was told." The remainder of the book includes guidelines on what to do for a grieving family, resources, bibliography, and even Vanderbilt's "Bereavement Checklist" and their Follow-Up Card."

Life & Loss: A Guide to Help Grieving Children, Linda Goldman. Taylor and Francis. A lovingly positive approach to helping children face some of life's most difficult issues, the reader is enabled to: recognize and understand different types of childhood losses; avoid the stifling cliches that block feeling; become aware of the myths that hinder the grief process; learn the four psychological tasks of grief; help a child say goodbye to a dying loved one; use techniques of grief work to help the child; acquire useful tools, ideas, and inventories for educators; and discover ways for kids to commemorate loss (funerals, memorials, memory books).

Loss During Pregnancy or in the Newborn Period: Principles of Care With Clinical Cases and Analysis, James Woods and Jennifer Esposita Woods, 1997. Jannetti Publications, Pitman NJ. An examination of the biologic implications and pscyologic challenges of the loss of a baby, with a concentrated focus on the need for communication as a critical tool. 26 well-credited authors and 30 case commentator contributors.

Love After Death: Counselling in Bereavement, Mary Jones, 1994. Jessica Kingsley Publishers. The author confronts the problems of bereavement and explains how the grieving process is often misunderstood. Intended as a guide for counselors and all those who come into close contact with the newly bereaved, this volume stresses the importance of counseling.

Management of Ectopic Pregnancy, Richard E. Leach and Steven J. Ory, 1999. Blackwell Science, Inc.

Management of High-Risk Pregnancy, John T. Qeenan, 1995. Blackwell Science Inc.

Medical Complications During Pregnancy, Gerard N. Burrow and Thomas P. Duffy, 5th edition 1999.

Nurturing the Premature Infant: Development Interventions in the Neonatal Intensive Care Nursery, Edward Goldson, 1999. Oxford University Press.

Obstetrics: Normal and Problem Pregnancies, Steven G. Gabbe, Jennifer R. Niebyl and Joe Leigh Simpson, 1996. Churchill Livingstone Press. 40 compilations on topics such as postpartum care, complicated pregnancies, pregnancy and coexisting disease, pregnancy termination and legal and ethical issues.

Parental Behavior After Perinatal Death: Lack of Predictive Demographic and Obstetric Variables, Kenneth Kellner, M.D., et al. Obstetrics and Gynecology, Vol. 63, No. 6, June 1984.

Pastoral Care In Pregnancy Loss: A Ministry Long Needed, Thomas Moe, 1997. Haworth Press, New York. Presents vital information about the three types of pregnancy loss, the grieving process, and the spiritual needs of those suffering this form of loss.

Perinatal Bereavement (the whole issue is devoted to this subject), Journal of Perinatal and Neonatal Nursing, Aspen, Sherokee Ilse and Connie Furrh authored an article on Follow-up, Fall issue 1988.

Perinatal Loss of a Child, ed. by Therese Rando, 1986. Research Press Co., 2612 N. Maltis Ave. Champagne, IL 61821. Available from Centering Corp., (402) 553-1200. This comprehensive book offers a broad overview of perinatal loss, and could be used as a reference guide for professionals.

Pregnancy Loss: Medical Therapeutics and Practical Considerations, James Woods, MD and Jennifer Esposito, 1987. Williams & Wilkins, Baltimore, MD. A straight forward approach for professionals to help them understand the grief process, early losses, the caregiver's responsibilities and role for each professional group that interacts with the bereaved family.

Premature Infants and Their Families: Developmental Interventions, M. Virginia Wyly, Ph.D. with contributions from Jack Allen and Janet Wilson, 1995. Singular Publishing Group, Inc.,4284 41st Street, San Diego, CA 92105. Part of the Early Childhood Intervention Series. Includes such topics as "Behavior and Development of the Preterm Infant," "Risk Conditions," Neurobehavioral Development and Support," etc.

Presenting Unexpected Outcomes: A Childbirth Educator's Guide, Sherokee Ilse. Wintergreen Press, 3630 Eileen St., Maple Plain, MN 55359, (612) 476-1303. A practical guide to help childbirth instructors teach and talk about the many unexpected outcomes that may affect prospective parents.

Reaching Out: A guide for developing or enhancing a comprehensive bereavement program for hospitals, clinics and other healthcare centers, Philip L. Shively. RTS Bereavement Services, La Crosse WI. Available from A Place To Remember, (800) 631-0973. A resource manual that offers help in everything from personnel and financial considerations to developing program standards and patient surveys. Also includes information on grief theory, offering support at the time of death, and recommendations for follow-up with a bereaved family.

Responding to Grief: A Complete Resource Guide, Rev. Richard Gilbert, 1997. The Spirit of Health, 114 Washington Ave., Point Richmond, CA 94801, (888-224-7685. A comprehensive listing of resources for all kinds of grief, including 60 organizations, books in each category of grief, or any of the 30 journals that deal with the topic of grief.

Supporting Bereaved Parents: A Program for the NICU, Derenda Hodge and Patricia Lynn Graham. Neonatal Network Magazine, December 1985. Vanderbilt University Hospital.

The Anthropology of Pregnancy Loss: Comparative Studies in Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Neonatal Death, Rosanne Cecil, 1996. Berg Publishing Ltd.

The Forgotten Mourners: Guidelines for Working with Bereaved Children, Sister Margaret Pennells and Susan C. Smith, 1995. Taylor & Francis, Bristol, PA. Available from A Place To Remember, (800) 631-0973. Book tries to raise awareness of issues involved for bereaved children, highlighting their needs and their emotional and behavioral responses when a bereavement occurs.

The Helper's Journey: Working With People Facing Grief, Loss and Life-Threatening Illness, Dale Larson, 1993. Research Press Co., 2612 N. Mathis Ave., Champaign, IL. Available from Centering Corp., (402) 553-1200. Filled with a unique blend of appropriate resources, coupled with practical suggestions for understanding yourself and being a better caregiver when you are needed the most.

The Last Dance, Lynne DeSpelder and Albert Strickland, 1992. Mayfield Pub., Mountain View, CA. A textbook that prepares and teaches caregivers about the history and current practices and beliefs about death and dying.

The Secret World of Drawings. Healing Through Art, Greg M. Furth, 1988. Sigo Press, Boston, MA. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Teaches the important skills of flexibility and awareness in the healing art practice. Shows how to recognize and use focal points, provides case studies and gives precautionary advice.

The Tentative Pregnancy, Barbara Katz Rothman, 1987. Penguin Books, NY.

Treatment of Complicated Mourning, Therese A. Rando, 1993. Research Press Co., 2612 N. Mathis Ave., Champaign, IL 61821. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Uses therapeutic strategies and interventions used when traditional grief counseling is insufficient. Gives critical information to assist in predicting, identifying, assessing and classifying complicated mourning.

What Bereaved Children Want Adults To Know About Grief, Alan Wolfelt, 1995. Audiotape, 25 minutes, plus booklet. Accelerated Development, 1900 Frost Road, Suite 101, Bristol PA 19007-1598, (800) 821-8312. Booklet/audiocassette package redone in 1995. Offers 15 principles about grief as it relates to children, and then describes them in the language a grieving child might actually use.

Workbook in Practical Neonatology, Richard A. Polin, Marvin C. Yoder, and Fredric D. Burg, revised 1993. Available from Childbirth Graphics (800) 299-3366, ext. 287. An interactive resource, written by 21 authorities, looks at ways to diagnose and manage 19 common neonatal problems. The basics of pathophysiology, biochemistry, and pharmacology are included, as well as fascinating case presentations. Recommendations for diagnosis and therapy include complete rationales.