Relatives and Friends
(Underlined/highlighted books are available from the A Place To Remember www bookstore.)

For Bereaved Grandparents, Margaret H. Gerner, 1990. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. This book was written by a bereaved mother and grandmother specifically to help grandparents address their feelings following the death of a grandchild.

Grief of Grandparents 1984. LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, WI 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. A small pamphlet that discusses the grief of grandparents. A lot of helpful ideas on how to help their children through this devastating time.

Grief: Difficult Times - Simple Steps, Emily L. Waszak, 1997. Accelerated Development, 1900 Frost Road, Suite 101, Bristol PA 19007-1598, (800) 821-8312. In an accessible, practical format this new guide shows what to do and what not to do for a person who has suffered the death of a loved one. Contains 100 tips for caregivers or loved ones: a simple step is presented on each page, followed by reasons and instructions for each step.

Grieving Grandparents, Sherokee llse and Lori Leininger, revised in 1994. Wintergreen Press. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. This booklet is a practical exploration of the anguish, sorrow and sense of helplessness that grandparents feel when their grandchild dies. Critical information is shared to aid grandparents as they attempt to comfort and support their children, while they also learn to cope with their own grief. Published by Wintergreen Press.

Healing A Friend's Grieving Heart, Alan D. Wolfelt Ph.D., 2001. Companion Press. A compassionate resource for friends, parents, relatives, teachers, volunteers, and caregivers, this series offers suggestions to help the grieving cope with the loss of a loved one. Often people do not know what to say, or what not to say, to someone they know who is mourning; this series teaches that the most important thing a person can do is listen, have compassion, be there for support, and do something helpful.

Helping People Through Grief: When a Friend Needs You, Delores Kuenning, 1987. Bethany House Publishers, 6820 Auto Club Rd, Bloomington, MN 55438, (612) 829-2500. A book dealing with all types of grief, with a spiritual guidance. (reviewed by Elizabeth Gibbs, bereaved parent).

How Can I Help? Martha Wegner-Hay. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Caregivers, family members and friends will all find How Can I Help? Suggestions for people who care about someone whose baby has died before birth, an attractive and easy to read resource. draws on her own experiences following the prenatal death of her daughter, Laura, to make practical suggestions to those who want to help but are struggling to find the right words.

I Don't Know How To Help Them, Linda Maurer, 1993. Linda K. Maurer, 7386 Buckingham Court, Boulder, CO 80301. For friends and relatives, written by a mother whose 19-1/2 year old daughter died. What to do, even if you live far away; how to understand the bereaved; and how to help teenagers and young adult peers.

"Is There Anything I Can Do To Help?," Amy Hillyard Jensen. Medic Publishing Company, PO Box 89, Redmond, WA 98073. Twenty suggestions for friends and relatives of grieving survivors.

Then An Angel Came, Carol Gino, paperback edition 1997. Kensington Publishing Corp. An unforgettable portrait of a family rediscovering itself and of miracles rooted in the everyday reality of life, this book chronicles the miraculous appearance of Jannith, the angel who guided a shattered family through its pain after SIDS.

What You Can Say...When You Don't Know What To Say: Reaching Out To Those Who Hurt, Lauren Briggs, 1985. Harvest House, Eugene, OR. Written from a Christian perspective, this book provides positive solutions for difficult situations.

What can I Say? How to help someone who is grieving: A Guide, Kelly Osmont with Marlyn McFailane, 1988. Nobility Press, PO Box 17603, Portland OR 97217. A guide to better understand the needs of grieving people suggestions for helping them, what to say and what not to say.

What Family and Friends Can Do, Sherokee Ilse, revised in 1994. Wintergreen Press, Maple Plain, MN. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. This booklet, adapted from Sherokee Ilse's book Empty Arms, is a practical guide to assist family and friends reach out to those in need after miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS and other infant deaths. Dozens of suggestions make this resource a must for relatives, co-workers, friends and professionals alike. Published by Wintergreen Press.

When A Grandchild Dies, Nadine Galinsky.Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Takes a very comprehensive look at a grandparentÕs grief. In its 130 pages, the book talks about issues ranging from planning the memorial service to relationship issues with in-laws. While the age range of the grandchild is wide, author Nadine Galinsky found that many of the issues faced by grandparents are the same. (51/2Óx81/2Ó, 126 pages)

When Joy Withers Away, Rev. Calvin D. Vander Meyden, 1994. A Place to Remember, 1885 University Ave., Suite 110, St. Paul MN 55104, (800) 631-0973. This is a pastor's poignant story of the death from SIDS of his grandson. Told not only as a grandfather, but also as a minister, it is a story over which we can not only shed tears, but also garner hope. Gives grieving grandparents suggestions on how they can survive such tragedy, but its real strength is how it gives all of us the freedom to ask, "Why, God? Why?"