Miscarriage / Stillbirth / Infant Loss (updated Aug. 27, 2002)
(Underlined/highlighted books are available from the A Place To Remember www bookstore.)

A Child At Dawn, the Healing of a Memory, Molly Fumia, 1990. Arre Man's Press, Notre Dame, IN 46556. A bereaved mother's journal following the death of her infant son to hypoplastic left heart syndrome. It stresses the importance of momentos, and dealing with your grief.

A Child Dies, A Portrait of Family Grief, Joan Hagan Arnold and Penelope Buschman Gemma, 1994 (Second Edition). The Charles Press, PO Box 15715, Philadelphia, PA 19103, (215) 545-8933. Deals with many types of child loss, providing background information, poetry, literature and art as it relates to death.

A Deeper Shade of Grace, Bernadette Keaggy, 1996. Bethany House Pub., 6820 Auto Club Rd, Bloomington, MN 55438, (612) 829-2500. While her husband traveled the world as a popular performer, Bernadette weathered the loss of five children whom she was unable to carry to term. This is the story of her struggle that brought her hope, love, and to God.

A Father's Grief, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. Fathers sometimes have a difficult time expressing their grief or understanding all the emotions they’re experiencing. A Father’s Grief is a 6-page pamphlet that takes a look at some of the common misconceptions of men’s grief, offers suggestions for resolving differences as well as discusses intimacy and plans for another child.

A Father's Story, Timothy Nelson, 1994. A Place to Remember, 1885 University Ave., Suite 110, St. Paul MN 55104, (800) 631-0973. The author shares his experiences after the stillbirth of his daughter. The first section captures the trauma and pain as he recounts his story of the stillbirth. The second part of the booklet was written 10 years later. It chronicles how the death played a significant role in his marriage, in subsequent pregnancies, and in the lives of their living children. One of the very few resources that deal openly and honestly with grief from a father's perspective.

A Little Death, Mary Jane Creel, 1987. Vantage Press, Inc., 516 West 34th St., New York, NY. This book was written by a bereaved mother whose 5 1/2 week daughter died of a genetic disorder called Trisomy 18.

A Piece of My Heart: Living through the Grief of Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Infant Death, Molly Fumia and Ann Dunnewold, 2000. Conari Press. The death of a child is one of life's most devastating experiences. Since it is contrary to the expected order of nature, most people remain confused about how to deal with their complex feelings. In A Piece of My Heart, author Molly Fumia chronicles the death of her infant son and her eventual recovery from it. Despite the title, a reviewer at Amazon.com found almost nothing that she could relate to her miscarriage and felt that the books has a misleading title.

A Rose in Heaven, Dawn Siegrist Waltman, 1999. Paradise Publications.

A Silent Love: Personal Stories of Coming to Terms with Miscarriage, Adrienne Ryan, 2001. Marlowe & Co. Many people who have suffered miscarriage, stillbirth, or neonatal death have been made to feel they shouldn't talk about it. As a result, their grief has often been compounded by guilt, shame, and sometimes anger. Now, with great sensitivity, Adrienne Ryan, who has herself suffered multiple miscarriages, explains why this grief is different than any other. This collection of more than fifty real-life stories--written by mothers as well as fathers and grandparents--give voice to that grief in all its emotional and psychic complexity. A Silent Love will offer support and hope to those who have lost a child, and will be an invaluable guide for friends and family.

A Silent Sorrow, Pregnancy Loss, Guidance and Support for You and Your Family, Ingrid Kohn and Perry-Lynn Moffitt, MSW, with Isabelle A. Wilkins, 1993. Bantam Press, New York, NY. Revised 2000, Routledge. Examines such issues as why men and women grieve differently, the impact of the loss on the parents' careers, and how to cope and look to the future with hope.

A Silent Sorrow, Pregnancy Loss, Guidance and Support for You and Your Family, Ingrid Kohn and Perry-Lynn Moffitt, MSW, with Isabelle A. Wilkins, second Ed. 2000. Routledge. Known for its comprehensive information and sensitive writing style, A Silent Sorrow is one of the classic help books for parents following a pregnancy loss. This newly revised second edition by Ingrid Kohn, MSW and Perry-Lynn Moffitt, includes up-to-date information on diagnosis, treatment and causes of pregnancy loss along with an abundance of coping tips for bereaved families.

A Time to Be Born, Julie Martin. The author reflects upon her journey through the pain of miscarriage that ends her first pregnancy at 15 weeks, to the joy of motherhood after a subsequent successful pregnancy. Uses a combination of poetry, prose and Biblical passages throughout the book in a very effective manner.

A Woman Doctor's Guide to Miscarriage: Essential Facts and Up-To-The Minute Information on Coping With Pregnancy Loss and Trying Again, Irene Daria, Laurie Abkemeier (ed.), Lynn Friedman, volume 1, 1996. Hyperion Press. An authoritative guide that explains how to cope with pregnancy loss and its aftermath. Answers questions about recovery, health, emotional upheaval and trying again.

After a Loss in Pregnancy, Help for Families Affected by a Miscarriage, A Stillbirth or the Loss of a Newborn, Nancy Berezin, 1982. Simon and Schuster, New York NY. "Based on hundreds of interviews with women who have experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth, or the loss of a newborn, the book takes an honest look at a woman's grief and at the various social forces and institutions that work for or against recovery...provides down to earth advice for coping."

After The Darkest Hour, The Sun Will Shine Again: A Parent's Guide To Coping With The Loss Of A Child, Elizabeth Mehren, 1997. Simon & Schuster, New York, NY.

After The Death Of A Child: Living With Loss Through The Years, Ann K. Finkbeiner, 1996. The Free Press, Simon & Schuster, 1230 Avenue of the Americas, New York NY 10020. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Includes detailed profiles of parents going through loss, with particular focus on how parents have changed 5-25 years after the loss of their children.

After the Loss of Your Baby: For Teen Mothers, Connie Nykiel, 1996. For Teen Moms Only, PO Box 962, Frankfort, IL 60423, (815) 464-5465. This 16-pg booklet is a good first contact for the teen mother who has a baby die. Also available in Spanish.

All Seasons Pass: Grieving a Miscarriage, Martha Manning, 2000. Sorin Books. As a psychologist and a woman, Martha Manning knows how shattering a lost pregnancy can be. Her story offers hope and healing to women suffering the same pain. We live in a culture that is incredibly dismissive of miscarriage as anything worth observing, grieving or commemorating. "As a psychologist I know how important it is in a time of loss to have vehicles that help you grieve and give you comfort. More important, as a woman who has suffered two miscarriages, I know personally the solitary suffering that accompanies such loss. I know about the anger, the self-blame, the fears for the future. All Seasons Pass is a spiritual story about miscarriage-mine. I tell it in the form of a parable in which an old woman comforts a younger woman who thinks that if she just tries hard enough, and does everything perfectly, she will be in control of her life-specifically her precarious pregnancy. Through the loss of the pregnancy and the events that follow, the young woman learns not only about the ragged edges of grief, but the many sources of grace amidst that grief. May you find this story-my story-to be a gift of hope and healing." -Martha Manning

Always Precious in Our Memory: Reflections After Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Neonatal Death, Kristen J. Ingram and Christine O. Lafser, 1997. Acta Publications. Each brief reflection--combined with carefully chosen Scripture quotation-will help parents, family members, and friends understand the grief, regret, anger and guilt they are feeling. The meditations offer profound insights, support, and comfort for those who grieve. (Note: a couple "citizen reviewers" at Amazon.com felt that this book was mistitled in that it was geared more toward the loss of an older child.)

An Ambitious Sort of Grief: Diary of pregnancy and neo-natal loss, Marion Cohen. Liberal Press. In her unique style, Marion expresses the many aspects of a mother's bereavement and recovery.

An Empty Cradle, A Full Heart - Reflections for mothers and fathers after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death, Christine O'Keeffe Lafser, 1998. Loyola Press, Chicago IL. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Having twice lost children to death, the author offers grieving parents the empathy and courage that can come only from one who has shared the experience. Each reflection is juxtaposed with a quote from scripture.

Angelic Presence: Short stories of solace and hope after the loss of a baby, compiled by Cathi Lammert and Sue Friedeck, 1997. National SHARE Office, St. Joseph Health Center, St. Charles, M. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. More than 30 vignettes about angels as they relate to the lives and deaths of their infants. Under such headings as Angelic Guidance, Angelic Callings and Angelic Signs.

Anna: A Daughter's Life, William Loizeaux, 1993. Arcade Publications, NY. A father shares his poignant story of Anna's life and death (at five months) from a genetic birth defect, VADAR Syndrome. This book is a beautiful record and celebration of life, love and courage. "This is one of the sweetest books written by a man..." (Amazon Books)

Autopsy, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. Written for families trying to decide whether to have an autopsy on their baby who has died, the 2-page Autopsy pamphlet takes parents through the decision-making process and helps them understand what they may or may not learn from a medical examination. Also available in Spanish.

Before and After My Child Died: A Collection of Parents' Experiences, Joseph Fischoff, MD and Noreen O'Brien Brohl, MSW, 1981. Emmons-Fairfield Publishing Co., Detroit, MI. "A beautiful collection. . .that is written in human, understandable language and shows the different aspects of coping."

Beginnings, Helen Galinsky, 1976. Houghton Mifflin. A young mother's story of two sons born prematurely, one who survives and the second one who does not. It contains good descriptions of how the first son reacts to his brother's death.

Bereaved Parents' Survival Guide, Juliet Cassuto Rothman, 1997. Continuum Publishing Company, New York, NY. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Rothman helps parents through the lonely times following the death of a child of any age. Offering suggestions for issues like what do with the child's belongings and other difficult questions, this book offers parents much needed information and support. Good resource list.

Born Too Soon: The Story of Emily, Our Premature Baby, Elizabeth Mehren, 1991. Doubleday, Doubleday & Dell, New York, NY. Paperback 1998, Kensington Publishing Corp.

Children Die, Too, Joy Johnson and Dr. S.M. Johnson. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. For parents who have experienced the death of a child.

Comfort Us, Lord - Our Baby Died, Norman Hagley. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. This in-depth book of prayers is for parents who are searching for some meaning for their baby's death through their faith. The prayers are from the heart and done with tremendous strength. The father's prayer speaks directly to the father's needs for tears and grief.

Coming to Term: A Father's Story of Birth, Loss, and Survival, William H. Woodwell, Jr., 2001. Univ Press of Mississippi. A rollercoaster of hope and despair, told with emotional honesty and couched in suspense.

Coping With a Miscarriage, Hank Pizer and Christine O'Brien Palinski, 1979. Dial Press, New York, NY. A thorough book that presents a clear, reassuring explanation of the causes, medical procedures and medical treatments of a miscarriage. Very frank and easy to read.

Coping With Miscarriage, Othniel J. Seiden and M.J. Timmons, 1984. TAB Books, Blue Ridge Summit, PA. For couples who have experienced a miscarriage, this book provides practical information for coping with the emotional impact of loss as well as the physical effects.

Coping With Miscarriage: A Simple, Reassuring Guide to Emotional and Physical Healing, Mimi Luebbermann, 1996. Prima Publishing, PO Box 126, Rocklin CA 95677, (916) 632-4400. Drawing upon years as a pregnancy counselor, Luebbermann guides women through the emotional stages as well as deals with the physical effects brought on by hormonal changes.

Coping with Sudden Infant Death, John De Frain, J. Taylor, and L. Ernst, 1982. Heath/Lexington Books, Lexington, MA. A very thorough and well written book on SIDS.

Dear Cheyenne: A Journey into Grief, Joanne Cacciatore, 1996. JC Publishing Co., 8448 W. Aster Drive, Peopria, AZ 85381, (602) 979-1000. The subtitle of this book is "A Collection of Love, Faith and Miracles--A Celebration of Motherhood," and is called "a book for bereaved parents and for those who love them.

Dear Cheyenne: A Journey into Grief, A Collection of Angels & Love, A Celebration of Motherhood, Joanne Cacciatore, 1999. Mothers in Sympathy and Support. A second edition of the popular book Dear Cheyenne. The book contains poetry, material appropriate for memorial services, grief information and a self help section. Also a look at men and women's different grieving styles.

Dear Parents—Letters to Bereaved Parents, 1989. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. A support group in book form. Parents and others say what they would tell a grieving parent. Friends walk with you and let you know you are not alone. Although sections are broken down, i.e. Illness, Sudden Death, Infant Death, etc., don’t let that limit your use of this book. The words of comfort, no matter what the circumstances of your grief, are almost always universal and comforting. Edited by Joy Johnson, Dear Parents includes letters from over 50 other bereaved parents, some well-known because of their jobs or they are authors, and others not so well-known, but who have been where you are now...grieving

Death of a Dream: Miscarriage Stillbirth, and Newborn Loss, Donna and Roger Ewy, 1984. E.P. Dutton, Inc. Currently out of print, but may be available in some libraries. Death of an Infant, Eileen McGrath, 1997. Thomas Moore Association.

Ectopic Pregnancy, 1984. RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. Pamphlet addresses ectopic pregnancy. Also available in Spanish.

Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death, Sherokee Ilse, 1982/1990. Spanish translation, 1999. Wintergreen Press, Maple Plain, MN. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. A very unique and encouraging book reaching out to all who have been touched by infant death. Shared with families in hospitals across the nation, this guide compassionately invites bereaved parents to make their own choices and decisions.

Empty Arms: Emotional Support for Those Who Have Suffered a Miscarriage, Stillbirth or Tubal Pregnancy, Pam W. Vredevelt, 1984, second edition 1994. Multnomah Books, Sisters, OR.Christian-based emotional support from the "Shocking News" through "Grief" and on to the "Challenge of a Postpartum Body" and "Eating for Health". There is also a chapter "The Bible Offers Hope & Comfort."

Empty Cradle, Broken Heart; Surviving the Death of Your Baby, Deborah L. Davis, Ph.D, 1991. Fulcrum Publishing. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Good with feelings, death decisions, family needs, telling the children, support networks and your next baby.

Ended Beginnings: Healing Childbearing Losses, Claudia Panuthos and Catherine Romeo, 1984. Bergin and Garvey Publisher's, Inc., 760 Amherst Road, South Hadley, MA 01075. Takes a thorough and hard look at healing after all kinds of childbearing loss. Very pro-woman in both stories and examples. This book addresses loss due to infertility, miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, abortion, release to adoption. It also deals with handicapped babies, Cesarean birth, premature and traumatic births.

Facts About Miscarriage And The Grief It Causes, Paul R. Feldman, MD and Sharon N. Carington, MSW. Fertility Press, 9715 Medical Center Drive, #503, Rockville, MD 20850. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. A small but well put-together pamphlet that addresses some of the facts of miscarriage and the grief that surrounds them.

Feelings About the Loss of a Baby, text by Gael Zehnder, 1984. Cleveland Regional Perinatal Network, 2106 Adelbert Rd, Cleveland, OH 44106, (216) 844-3391. This booklet is excellent for parents when a baby dies. It brings them from the feelings and emotions they experience at the time of the baby's death through resolution. Available in Spanish.

For Bereaved Parents, Susan Gibney, 1993. University of Michigan Hospitals, Ann Arbor, MI.

For Better or For Worse, Maribeth Doerr, 1992. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064,(402) 553-1200. A short booklet that addresses the relationship difficulties that couples experience with the death of a child. Communication and the different ways men and women grieve are emphasized.

Forever Silent, Forever Changed: The Loss of a Baby in Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Early Infancy. A Mother's Experience and Your Personal Journal, Kellie Davis, 2001. Booklocker. Forever Silent, Forever Changed was written for Kellie's son, Kyle, born still on November 10, 1998 and for families and friends of those who have experienced losses similar to hers. In this book, you will find Kellie's journey through loss, grief and acceptance. Also, she has included pages the reader can use as a journal to help guide her on her own healing path. A must read for parents, family, friends and health care providers.

Free to Grieve, Maureen Rank, 1985. Bethany House Pub., 6820 Auto Club Rd, Bloomington, MN 55438, (612) 829-2500. Comfort, encouragement and sound advice for those who have suffered the loss of a baby through miscarriage or stillbirth. Written by a bereaved mother combining her own experiences as well as extensive research.

From Chrysalis to Wings, Alexandra Spenser Leavelle, 2000. Upublish.com. From Chrysalis to Wings is one woman's life expanding experience surrounding her own pregnancy and miscarriage. The author, and subject of the book, allows a little seen glimpse into the inner workings of a woman. Alexandra Spenser Leavelle is on the pulse of the human need for introspection and unifying experiences. From Chrysalis to Wings is a triumph in writing that is written in whole appreciation of the men who are so much a part of every woman's life.

From Sorrow To Serenity: Meditations For Those Who Have Suffered Pregnancy or Infant Loss, Susan Fletcher, 1998. Hunter House Publications, Cedar Rapids, IA. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Using scripture and thought-provoking meditations, the reader is guided on the journey through grief. Drawing on a personal experience of repeated pregnancy loss, Fletcher shares the hope and health she received.

Given In Love But Not Mine To Keep: Finding Strength In The Loss Of A Newborn Child, Jan Wolfe Rosales, 2000. Erica House Book Publishers. "He was. He existed. He was a very small person that touched our lives in a powerful way. [...] Losing Joe did not ultimately rip my life apart, but rather made me stronger, emotionally and spiritually." Jan Wolfe Rosales lost her firstborn child when he was just four days old. Baby Joe died in his mother's arms in the backseat of an automobile on an Iowa turnpike, on their way home from the hospital where the best university doctors couldn't undo his fatal heart defect. Joe's young parents were devastated. Bereaved. And very angry with God. This is a book about loss and repair. About finding a source of strength beyond imagination. It is an exceptionally powerful testimony of Faith, a tribute to a son who was given everything but length of days, and a testament to the Son who guided a young woman through her valley of the shadow of death: "Okay, God, I'm going to trust that you know what you're doing, and that you understand what this has done to me."

Go Gently, Dr. David Morawitz. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064. A booklet by a psychologist from Australia whose infant son, Michael, died of SIDS.

Gone Too Soon: The Life and Loss of Infants and Unborn Children, Sherri Devashrayee Wittwer, 1994. Covenant Communications. A frank and insightful book that offers comfort and support.

Goodbye My Child, Sara Wheeler and Margaret Pike. Published by Centering Corporation, Omaha, NE. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Covers death of all ages of children, from the question of organ donation and autopsy, to the planning of a funeral. Good summary of the phases of grief, and nice pencil sketches add warmth. (Also available in Spanish)

Good Mourning: Help and Understanding in Time of Pregnancy Loss, Judy Gordon Morrow and Nancy Gordon DeHammer, 1989. Word Publishing, Dallas, TX. Forward by Dale Hanson Bourke, written from a Christian perspective. A compassionate, creative approach to a healthy resolution of grief and acceptance of pregnancy loss. Stories from bereaved parents. Tips on journal keeping.

Grief of Parents Following Medical Interruption of Pregnancy, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. A gently written 5-page pamphlet which provides a rich source of information not previously available. Parents who have ended their pregnancy due to a diagnosis of fetal anomalies will find info for the period immediately after a pregnancy interruption or during the days following. Topics include common reactions of parents following a pregnancy interruption; the physical, social, emotional and spiritual components of grief; masculine and feminine styles of grieving; and steps you can take to help the healing process

Grieving the Child I Never Knew, Kathe Wunnenberg, 2001. Zondervan Publishing House. The loss of a child through miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, stillbirth, or early infant death carries with it an often hidden grief. The anticipation of new life is shattered into a void, leaving pain that is often minimized, misunderstood, or never shared. In this collection of 31 devotions both men and women are given permission to grieve their loss.

Handling the Heartbreak of Miscarriage, Nancy Rue, 1987. Here's Life Publishers, PO Box 1576, San Bernadino, CA 92402-1576. A personal account of how the author found healing and growth from her miscarriage using well-researched data as well as spiritual information. Available from Christian bookstores and publisher.

Healing Grief, Amy Hillyard Jensen. Medic Publishing Company, PO Box 89, Redmond, WA 98073. Very basic booklet by a woman who has experienced the death of two children. Shock, denial, guilt, anger and depression are all dealt with.

Healing Together: For Couples Grieving the Death of Their Baby, Marcie Tister and Sandia Torrell, 1991. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. For couples whose baby dies, a book that covers memorial services to communication. Ends with "Letting Grief Strengthen Your Relationship."

Help, Comfort & Hope after Losing Your Baby In Pregnancy or the First Year, Hannah Lothrop, 1992, American Ed. 1997. Fisher Books, Tucson, AZ. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. The first part of the book deals with individuals working through their grief, while the second is how others can care for the bereaved. Extensive appendices.

Hidden Loss: Miscarriage and Ectopic Pregnancy, Valerie Hey, Catherine Itzin and Lesley Saunders, 1997. Trafalgar Square.

How to Go on Living After the Death of a Baby (formerly titled Motherhood and Mourning), Larry Peppers and Ronald Knapp, 1985. Peachtree Publishers Limited, 494 Armour Circle NE, Atlanta, GA 39324. This book is geared to the grieving mother and her support network. Personal examples add interest to the informative material given.

How To Survive The Loss Of A Child: Filling the Emptiness and Rebuilding Your Life, Catherine Sanders, Ph.D., 1998. Prima Publishing, PO Box 126, Rocklin CA 95677, (916) 632-4400. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Explores phases of grief, horrendous deaths, loss of unborn and newborn babies, the importance of mourning rituals and finally joy after the pain.

I Can't Find a Heartbeat: Hope and Help for Those Who Have Lost an Unborn Child, Melissa Sexson Hansen, 1999. Review & Herald Publishers Associationn. I Can’t Find A Heartbeat is a personal story with a “Christian focus” that shares the author’s journey toward physical, emotional and spiritual healing. Through stories, pieces of Scripture, and personal insights, the author offers hope to all those who have been touched by the loss of an unborn child. The appendix includes an extensive listing of Bible verses that parents can turn to for comfort and strength.

I'll Hold You In Heaven: Healing and Hope for the Parent of a Miscarried, Aborted, or Stillborn Child, Jack Hayfor, 1990. Regal Books, Ventura, CA. A religiously oriented book written by a pastor to answer parent's questions following the death of an infant through miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death.

In Heavenly Arms; Grieving the Loss, Healing the Wounds of Miscarriage, Shari L. Bridgman, 1997. Black Hawk Publishing Co. Written with professional expertise, but based on personal experience.

In Search of Hope: One Woman's Journey Through Despair in the Wake of Neonatal Death, Infertility and Miscarriage, Susan R. Lowe, 2001. Publishamerica Inc.

In the Midst of Winter: Selections from the Literature of Mourning, Mary J. Moffat, 1982. Random House. This book is an "anthology of writings about the process of mourning...it contains poems, diaries, letters...and reveals the nature and progress of grief."

Journey Through Grief, Elizabeth Brooks Farnsworth, 1988. Susan Hunter Publishing, 1447 Peachtree St. NE, #807, Atlanta, GA 30309. A personal account of a child with Down Syndrome who dies after open heart surgery at seven months of age.

Letters to Gabriel, Karen Garver Santorum, 1998, CCC of America. The book is a series of letters that Karen wrote to her son, Gabriel Michael, who was born prematurely and died two hours after birth. Karen expresses the bond between mother and child with incredible tenderness and love. A collection of letters by the author to her unborn child with an abnormality known as "posterior urethral valve", a defect in which a valve in the urinary system does not open. As a result, the baby is unable to empty fluid from the bladder to the amniotic sac.

Letters to Geoffrey - Notes to a Premature Son From Birth to Death, Robert Webster. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. A father's journal. The author, Geoffrey's father, wrote a number of letters to his premature son from the day he was born until the day he was buried. An especially good resource for men.

Losing You Too Soon, Bernadette Keaggy, Phil Keaggy, 2002.Harvest House Publishers, Inc.

Loss and Bereavement in Childbearing, Rosemary Mander, 1994. Blackwell Science Inc.

Lost Dreams - For Parents Experiencing Pregnancy Loss, Deb Baresic, RN. Parkview Memorial Hospital, 2200 Randallia Ave., Ft. Wayne, IN 46805. A very helpful book to help parents face the difficult choices and feelings following the death of a much loved infant.

Lost Lullaby, Deborah Golden Alecson and Kathleen Nolan, 1995. University of California Press, Los Angeles, CA. After a miscarriage, Alecson's second pregnancy came to term but only after a complicated labor in which they were faced with the decision on whether or not to allow their severely brain-damaged daughter to die.

Love, Labour and Loss: Stillbirth and Neonatal Death, Jo Benson and Dawn Robinson-Walsh, 1996. Scarlet Press.

Making it Through The Night, Pat Quigley and Marilyn Shroyer, Ph.D. An excellent book for couples who are going through a tragic time. Gentle and affirming. This book guides you through the painful progression of feelings a crisis generates. It is for any crisis a couple may encounter, not only for infant death.

Maternal-Infant Bonding: The Impact of Early Separation or Loss on Family Development, Marshall Klaus and John Kennel. Canada: C.V. Mosby Co. Ltd., 1976.

Men and Grief: A Guide for Men Surviving the Death of a Loved One, Carol Staudacher, 1991. New Harbinger Publications, Dept. B, 5674 Shattuck, Oakland, CA 94609. Available from Compassion Books, (704) 675-9670. Explores and identifies the major characteristics of men's grief, how they cope and facilitate their grief as well as presents examples of how to take care of themselves in grief.

Miscarriage, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. Miscarriage addresses the emotional and physical responses to miscarriage experienced by both women and men. Because our society too often does not view death due to miscarriage as a real loss since the baby was so small, parents sometimes find themselves struggling as to how they feel. Some will mourn deeply, others will grieve very little or bounce back and forth in their feelings -- whatever their response, they will find helpful information in this brochure. Also available in Spanish.

Miscarriage: A Book for Parents, Marvin and Joy Johnson, 1988. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. This book deals with the validity of feelings, the value of the loss of the pregnancy. Dad's reactions, Mom's needs, family relationships, and marriage ties. A special section has suggestions for memorializing the baby and residuals that will cause emotions to resurface. (This booklet is also available in Spanish)

Miscarriage: A Man's Book, Rick Wheat, 1995. Centering Corp., Omaha, NE. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Written by a Marriage and Family Therapist who has experienced the difficulties of miscarriage first-hand. The first page is devoted to "an emergency page"—nine items a man should know right away when his wife has just had a miscarriage, including "recognize the importance of this event. This may well be the worst thing that has ever happened to your wife and maybe to you, too." He talks about things that will be difficult and discusses the stages of grief and some of the responses that may result such as guilt, depression or withdrawal. He also gives some practical tips on how to keep the marital relationship strong after such a devastating event.

Miscarriage: A Shattered Dream, Sherokee llse and Linda Hammer Burns, 1985. Wintergreen Press, Maple Plain, MN. Also available from A Place to Remember, 1885 University Avenue, Saint Paul, MN 55104, (800) 631-0973. A comprehensive, sensitive guide on miscarriage-the medical and emotional aspects. Short, yet comprehensive, providing a personal touch to a sensitive subject. Given out to miscarrying patients by hospitals and clinics.

Miscarriage: A Woman Doctor's Guide, Lynn Friedman, Irene Daria (Contributor), 2001. Kensington Pub Corp (Mass Market)..

Miscarriage: Sharing the Grief, Facing the Pain, Healing the Wounds, Walter Williamson, 1987. Walker and Company, 720 Fifth Ave., New York, NY 10019.

Miscarriage: The Facts, Gillian C.L. Lachelin, second ed., 1996. Oxford University Press (Oxford Medical Publications).

Miscarriage: Women's Experiences and Needs, Christine Moulder, 2001. Routledge. This sympathetic and helpful book explores the many different ways in which women physically experience miscarriage and emotionally react to it. This is an invaluable book for both women who have miscarried and health professionals.

Miscarriage: Your Questions Answered, Ursula Markham, 1999. Element Guide Series. Explores the emotional and physical realities of healing from miscarriage, with particular stress on the need for remembering as part of the healing process . Also a chapter on holistic therapies. A good resource guide.

Miscarriage—Women Sharing From The Heart, Marie Allen and Shelly Marks, 1993. Wiley Press, New York, NY. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. Excellent book, very comprehensive and human, with personal stories, suggestions and research on feelings. Offers support, empathy, and a path towards healing.

Miscarriages, Abortions & Stillborn Babies (In The House of God), Lorna Wren, 1999. Lorna Wren Ministries.

Misty - Our Momentary Child, Carole Gift Page, 1987. Crossway Books, Weschester, IL 60153. A bereaved Mom's journal through sorrow to healing following the death of her infant daughter.

Mommy, please don't cry, Linda DeYmaz and illustrated by Sabrina Smith, 1997. Multnomah Publishers Inc., Sisters, OR. A book of love and comfort for mothers who have experienced the deep sorrow of losing a child. Each page is like opening a gift...bright, beautiful, joyful illustrations and gentle, poignant words describe heaven from a child's eyes. It is a message of hope and healing. 4-color illustrations throughout.

Mother Care: Physical Care and Beyond After a Baby Dies, Sherokee Ilse, Inez Anderson and Mary Funk, 1996. Wintergreen Press, Maple Plain, MN. Also available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. Written specifically for mothers after a late miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death, it focuses on regaining health and is intended to be given to mothers while still in the hospital or at the clinic. Focuses on physical realities after loss, including nutrition, hygiene, breast care, and uterine exercises. The second half focuses on emotional and spiritual care.

Motherhood After Miscarriage, Kathleen Diamond, PhD., 1991. Published by Bob Adams Inc. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. A compelling, understandable examination of a sensitive issue, including myths and realities, causes, the pros and cons of hormone treatments, and more.

Motherhood and Mourning: Perinatal Death, Larry G. Peppers and Ronald J. Knapp, 1980. Published by Praeger. This book is a well-researched study by two sociologists. Includes SIDS.

Mothers of Thyme - Customs and Rituals of Infertility and Miscarriage, Janet L. Sho, 1990. Lida Rose Press, PO Box 15076, Ann Arbor, MI 48106. A look at infertility and pregnancy loss through the eyes of couples who suffered these afflictions. It contains anecdotes and recipes from household companions, midwifery and medical books, anthropologist's notes, legends and folklore.

Newborn Death, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. The Newborn Death pamphlet from RTS is for parents whose newborn suddenly dies from unexpected complications. The 6-page pamphlet shares feelings other parents have experienced, explains medical terminology that parents may hear, and gives coping suggestions. Also available in Spanish.

Newborn Death - For Parents Experiencing the Death of a Very Small Infant, Marvin and Joy Johnson, 1987, with J. Cunningham, S. Ewing, D. Hatcher and C. Dannen. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. This booklet is directed towards the immediate needs of the parents when a very small infant dies. concrete material offers direction in such areas as: feelings, saying good-bye, family and friends and being a single parent.

"New Hope: Doctors are solving the Mystery of Miscarriage," Arlene Fischer. Redbook, March, 1990, page 136.

New Hope for Problem Pregnancies: Helping Babies BEFORE They're Born, Dianne Hales and Robert K. Creasy, 1982. Harper & Row, New York, NY.

Nothing to Cry About, Barbara J. Berg, 1981. Harper & Row, New York, NY. A painful story of a mother who experienced a miscarriage, a stillbirth, and later infertility, and the problems she faced with some insensitive medical professionals.

Ocaso Sin Aurora. Spanish. Available from Centering Corp., (402) 553-1200. Done by a group of Spanish-speaking parents, this booklet shares needs and feelings following an infant death, stillbirth, miscarriage or death of an older child. Poems, good suggestions for coping are included.

Our Stories of Miscarriage: Healing With Words, edited by Rachel Faldet and Karen Fitton, 1997. Fairview Press, Minneapolis MN. Available from A Place To Remember, (800) 631-0973 . Fifty contributors (including 4 men) share vivid accounts of how miscarriage has affected their lives. By articulating often unspoken feelings and experiences, each provides needed emotional support and comfort to others.

Parenatal Loss of A Child, edited by Theresa A. Rando, 1986. Research Press Co., 2612 N. Mattis Ave., Champaign, IL 61821. A compilation of research materials about bereaved parents.

Parenthood Lost: Healing the Pain after Miscarriage, Stillbirth, and Infant Death, Michael R. Berman (Editor), January 2001. Bergin & Garvey. Through original poetry, firsthand stories told by parents, and articles describing genetic disorders, Berman shares his technique that helps parents deal with their grief and unravels the confusing genetic causes of miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant death.

Parents' Booklet, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. "...it means so much to know that someone cares." These words gently introduce parents to the Parents' Booklet which addresses numerous topics such as, differing grieving styles of couples, explaining death to children, sexuality and planning another pregnancy. The booklet affirms parents' right to feel their pain, think their thoughts and lets them know they are not alone in experiencing these emotions. Nicely designed with comforting photographs. Also available in Spanish.

Peace & Remembrance: A guide for Parents whose baby dies in a newborn intensive care unit, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. Peace & Remembrance is a 34-page booklet written for parents whose children die in the neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). Issues like telling other children the news, dealing with medical staff and making funeral arrangements are all covered.

Praying for Your Unborn Child, Francis and Judith MacNutt, 1988. Offers suggestions for praying during pregnancy including sections on miscarriage and abortion.

Preventing Miscarriage - The Good News, Jonathon Scher, M.D, and Carol Dix, 1991. Harper & Row Publishers, New York, NY. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. The most up-to-date information on: Why pregnancies fail, new medical tests that pinpoint the causes, latest treatments available to prevent loss of pregnancy. Excellent book by a doctor who focuses on the medical as well as emotional aspects of miscarriage and subsequent pregnancy.

Quietus, A Story of a stillbirth, Jean M. Gunderson and Denna Harris, 1990. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. A bereaved mother's account of her stillborn son and interactions with her husband, older son and mother. (Also available in Spanish.)

Recovering from the Loss of a Child, Katherine Fair Donnelly, 1982. Macmillan. This book offers many experiences and insights of parents who have experienced the death of a child. One doctor said it needed to be "on the desk of every person who is grieving or working with parents."

Sacred Healing: A Metaphysical Approach To Prayer, Meditation And Dreams After The Death Of A Baby, Susan Erling Martinez, 1994. A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. The author sheds light on the soulful journey from grief to healing, and from stillness to aliveness. Her metaphysical approach to prayer, meditation and dreams offers an additional perspective to those who want to understand their grief and to move from healing to growth. The booklet includes exercises on meaningful prayer, passive and active meditation techniques, and how to better remember your dreams to help understand what your Higher Self is telling you.

Shadow Child: An Apprenticeship in Love and Loss, Beth Powning, 2000. Carroll & Graf. The long-range effects of stillbirth are poignantly told in this story of emotional trauma and eventual insight.

SIDS: A Parent's Guide to Understanding and Preventing Sudden Infant Death Syndrome, William Sears, 1996. Available from La Leche League International, PO Box 4079, Schaumburg IL 60168, (847) 519-9585. A comprehensive review of research on Sudden Infant Death Syndrome and startling info on its causes. Every parent needs to understand what's involved and what might be done to avoid this tragedy.

Silent Birth...if your baby dies, Sharon N. Covington, MSW, LCSW, 1991. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. A short well put-together pamphlet that briefly touches on certain aspects of the grieving process following the death of an infant.

Silent Cradle: Help and Understanding In Time of Pregnancy Loss, Judy Gordon Morrow and Nancy Gordon DeHammer, 1998. Word Publishing, Dallas, TX. Forward by Dale Hanson Bourke, written from a Christian perspective. A compassionate, creative approach to a healthy resolution of grief and acceptance of pregnancy loss. Stories from bereaved parents. Tips on journal keeping.

Silent Grief: Miscarriage - Finding Your Way Through the Darkness, Clara H. Hinton, 1998. Hinton, a mother of 11 children, talks about this kind of loss like a stolen promise, but reawakens the reader to a state of hope.

Single Parent Grief, Sherokee Ilse, 1994. A Place to Remember, 1885 University Ave., Suite 110, St. Paul MN 55104, (800) 631-0973. Whether a teen or older parent, the pain and anguish of having a child die can be overwhelming and lonely for single parents who have no partner to be there for them. Single Parent Grief is a gentle and empowering guide. Practical suggestions and information offer hope and help.

Sooner or Later, Millie R. Hynes, 1982. Tri Unity Press, East Wenatchee, WA. A bereaved mother shares her religious perspective on how God works in her life. This book briefly touches on the author's experience of losing premature sextuplets.

Stillbirth, RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse Lutheran Hospital, 1910 South St., LaCrosse, Wl 54601, (608) 785-0530, Ext. 3675. The RTS Stillbirth brochure is written for the nearly one million families per year who experience this devastating loss. Addressing the questions and validating the emotions of these parents, it offers insights and comfort as families move through their unique grief. Also available in Spanish.

Stillborn: The Invisible Death, John De Frain, 1986. Heath/Lexington Books, Lexington, MA. An insightful book for helping parents of stillborn babies. Compiled from over 300 parents who have experienced a stillbirth.

Stolen Joy: Healing after Infertility and Infant Loss, A. Barney, 1993. Icarus Books, Baltimore MD.

Strength Among Women, Kathy Clifford, 1999. Cadillac Printing. "Strength Among Women" is an inspirational book of problem pregnancy and childbirth experiences. It was written to comfort any woman suffering from the premature loss of a pregnancy or infant death. A "must read" for any parent or teenager. Stories included: abortion, adoption, teen pregnancy, home births, doctor's office births, stillborn births, ectopic pregnancies, c-sections, fertility treatment to name just a few. Proceeds benefit charities for women.

Strong and Tender, Perinatal Loss. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. A resource for fathers--a guide for the father whose baby has died. Packed with helpful suggestions and tender stories from grieving fathers, this book gives dads permission to feel their pain and help them understand some of the responses theyÕre having to the death of their child.

Sudden Infant Death: Enduring the Loss, John DeFrain, et. al., 1991. Heath/Lexington Books, Lexington, MA. This book searches for causes of SIDS and discusses the symptoms of grief. Deals with how to tell surviving children, and discusses whether or not it can happen again. Survival issues explored.

Sudden Infant Death Syndrome: Problems, Progress and Possibilities, Roger W., MD Byard (Editor), Henry F., MD Krous (Editor),k 2001. Edward Arnold. This book provides a comprehensive overview of the epidemiology, pathology and physiology of SIDS. It gives an emphasis to new theories of causation, new diagnostic approaches, recent changes in epidemiology, recently developed international protocols and analyses of current problems in both the diagnosis and approach to SIDS. In addition, parental concerns, medicolegal issues and the perspective of different ethnic groups are also featured. The text contains a wide variety of topics and viewpoints from many highly respected SIDS researchers from Australasia, Europe, and North America.

Surviving Pregnancy Loss: A Complete Sourcebook for Women and their Families, Rochelle Friedman, MD and Bonnie Gradstein, MPH, revised and updated 1997. Citadel Press. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. Provides a comprehensive discussion of the physical and emotional consequences of pregnancy loss, including stories of women and the exploration of options for the future.

Tears of Sorrow, Seeds of Hope: A Jewish Spiritual Companion for Infertility and Pregnancy Loss, Nina Beth Cardin, 1989. Jewish Lights Publishing, Woodstock VT.

Tender Fingerprints: A True Story of Loss and Resolution, Brad Stetson, 1999. Zondervan Publishing House. Tender Fingerprints is an intensely personal story of a couple whose journey takes them to a place of profound joy that turns to devastation and hopelessness and then on to renewal and a deeper understanding of life and faith in God. Brad Stetson, father of stillborn son, B.J., has written an intimate account of the silent sadness that affects thousands of couples every year and shares how he and his wife, Nina, were able to survive and grow. One of the few books written about infant loss from a honest and forthright male perspective.

Tender Miscarriage - An Epiphany, Paula Saffire, 1989. Harbinger House, Inc., Tucson, AZ. A moving account of the author's personal tragedy and how it affected her family.

The Anguish of Loss, Julie Fritsch with Sherokee llse, 1988. Wintergreen Press, Maple Plain, MN. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. A resource to sensitize all those who want to understand the turbulence of loss and grief. This journey through a mother's sculptures and prose after her son's death transcends cultures, language, history and time.

The Best-Kept Secret to Raising a Healthy Child...and the Possible Prevention of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS), Dr. Craig Wehrenberg, Dr. Tracey Mulhall-Wehrenberg, 2000. Specific Chiopractic. Infant and children's health can be improved by a little known, yet simple procedure. This book details the scientific research that documents this and how many medical doctors in Germany and other European counties are presently using a similar technique with the same impressive results.

The Grief of Parents When a Child Dies, Margaret Miles. Compassionate Friends National Headquarters, PO Box 3696, Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696, (630) 990-0010. The many facets of parental and sibling grief are discussed in a clear and sensitive manner.

The Other Side of Pregnancy: Coping with Miscarriage and Stillbirth, Sherry Lynn Mims Jimenez, 1982. Prentice Hall, Inc., Englewood Cliffs, NJ, 1983.

The Promise of a Rainbow - after a child dies, Patti Fochi, 1985. Burns and Associates, Ft. Collins, CO. A bereaved mothers journal through the grieving process following the death of her three week old son due to a fatal congenital abnormality. Can be purchased from the author, 6122 Dudley Court, Arvada, CO 80004; email pattiarvada@aol.com

The SIDS Survival Guide: Information and Comfort for Grieving Family & Friends & Professionals Who Seek to Help Them, Joani Nelson Horchler and Robin Rice Morris, 1994. SIDS Educational Services, Inc. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. One of the best resources for SIDS survivors. Packed with information, "survival" suggestions, and the stories, poems, and letters of actual SIDS survivors, it addresses the full spectrum of the unique issues that a SIDS loss presents. We can honestly say it is one of the most important books for anyone who has an interest in SIDS.

The Ultimate Loss—Coping With The Death of a Child, Joan Bordow, 1982. Beaufort Books Inc., New York/Toronto.

The Worst Loss: How Families Heal From The Death Of A Child, Barbara D. Rosaf, 1994. Henry Holt & Co., Inc., 115 W. 18th St., New York, NY 10011. Chapters include mourning over the long haul; you and your partner; how children grieve; getting through the first year. Covers stillbirths, terminal illness in children, AIDS, SIDS, murders and suicides.

This Little While: For Parents Experiencing the Death of a Stillborn Baby or a Very Young Infant, Marvin and Joy Johnson, 1988. Centering Corp., 1531 N. Saddle Creek Rd., Omaha, NE 68104-5064, (402) 553-1200. Full of information beginning with hearing the bad news, This Little Whileis full of all the information you want to know as well as what you need to know. Includes lots of gentle suggestions on things you should consider for remembrances and not to miss opportunities that cannot be replaced later. A resource every newly bereaved parent should have access to. Also available in Spanish.

Threads of Hope, Pieces of Joy, Teale Fackler and Gwen Kik. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. A pregnancy loss Bible study which ministers to individuals and small groups who have experienced a loss through miscarriage, stillbirth or any form of early infant death. Some of the questions discussed during the 9-week study include: "where do I go from here?" "where is my child now?" "can I ever understand why?" and "how can God help me deal with losing my baby?" A wonderful resource for those seeking strength and comfort through a better understanding of Biblical readings.

Unspeakable Losses : Healing from Miscarriage, Abortion and Other Pregnancy Loss, Kim Kluger-Bell, 2000. Quill. "Unspeakable Losses includes in-depth stories from would-be parents (including Kluger-Bell herself) discussing such diverse issues as multifetal reductions (more and more common as in vitro fertilization procedures become widespread), the male experience of pregnancy loss, and how a woman can be pro-choice yet still suffer grief over choosing abortion. She includes tools for moving through the grieving process, discussing losses, and helping loved ones who have experienced pregnancy loss. This caring, understanding book may help give voice to those who have previously found it too painful to speak."--Ericka Lutz, Amazon.com

Unsung Lullabies: A Parent s Guide to Healing After Childbearing Loss, 1992. H.A.N.D. of Santa Clara, CA.

Unsupported Losses, Sherokee Ilse, 1994. A Place to Remember, 1885 University Ave., Suite 110, St. Paul MN 55104, (800) 631-0973. Blighted ovum, ectopic and molar pregnancies are often misunderstood. They are shocking, unexpected and medically complicated. They signal the end of the pregnancy and the death of many hopes and dreams. Unsupported Losses is a short, informative resource that explains what happens during these pregnancies and examines a family s emotional responses. Sherokee Ilse has consulted with physicians to present basic facts and practical suggestions on how to cope.

Upon the Death of Your Child, Peggy Brown, R.N., 1992. University of Michigan Medical Center, Ann Arbor, MI.

Waiting With Gabriel, Amy Kuebelbeck, 2000. Loyola Press. When Amy Kuebelbeck was five and a half months pregnant, she was told that the child she was carrying had a fatal heart condition. She and her husband were then faced with an impossible decision: give their baby a chance at live--and with it, enormous pain and suffering--or let their baby die naturally, shortly after birth. The unforgettable journey that ensued would change not only their lives, but also the lives of everyone who came in contact with them. Now the story is captured in Waiting with Gabriel: a story of cherishing a baby’s brief life. Richard Paul Evans, author of The Christmas Box and The Last Promise says this about Waiting With Gabriel: ”Kuebelbeck writes about the unthinkable, and does it with beauty, grace, and a profound understanding of the true meaning of death as it relates to the living. It is a mother’s goodbye kiss...heartbreaking, life-affirming, and wise.”

When a Baby Dies, Martha Jo Church, Helene Chazin and Faith Ewald, 1981. Compassionate Friends National Headquarters, PO Box 3696, Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696, (630) 990-0010. This booklet is written by bereaved mothers to help newly bereaved parents. It is a collection of signposts and landmarks that you the reader may experience. It is also an overview of stages that are common following the loss of a baby.

When a Baby Dies, Irving Leon, 1990. Yale University Press, New Haven, CT. Explores the loss of a baby during pregnancy or as a newborn. Also talks about surviving siblings.

When A Baby Dies: A Handbook for Healing and Helping, Rana K. Limbo and Sara Rich Wheeler, with Susan T. Hessel, 1993. RTS Bereavement Services, LaCrosse, WI. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. A book for parents who experience a miscarriage, stillbirth or newborn death and the professionals who care for them. Includes checklists and practical suggestions for the caregiver.

When A Baby Dies: Answers to Comfort Grieving Parents, Ronald H. Nash, 1999. Zondervan Publishing House. For parents seeking Biblical solace for their grief, or for pastors who are their caregivers, this book answers the religious questions asked by parents. It is a Reformed and Protestant point of view.

When A Baby Dies: The Experience of Late Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Neonatal Death, Nancy Kohner and Alix Henley, revised editionJune 2001. Pandora Press, London England. An excellent book covering detailed parent stories, a discussion of the feelings, of grief, the question of another pregnancy and a nice size chapter devoted to "medical explanations." Since it is written in the United Kingdom, one of the best resource lists we have seen for resources outside of the United States, especially in England.

When a Meeting Is Also Farewell: Coping With a Stillbirth or Neonatal Death, Ingela Radestad, 1999. Books for Midwives Pr.

When Hello Means Goodbye, Pat Schwiebert and Paul Kirk, 1985. Perinatal Loss, 2116 N.E. 18th Ave, Portland, OR 97212. Available from A Place to Remember, (800) 631-0973. A very well put together booklet that will help to guide newly bereaved parents with very important decision making immediately following the death of a baby. (Also available in Spanish.)

When Mourning Breaks: Coping With Miscarriage, Melissa Sexson Hanson, 1998. Morehouse Publishing Company. The author, who has had two miscarriages, writes of her experiences, of the grief, and of the difficulty of the recovery process. In meditations and prayers based on Biblical passages, Hanson offers hope and comfort to couples during this painful time.

When Pregnancy Fails: Families Coping with Miscarriage, Ectopic Pregnancy, Stillbirth, and Infant Death, Susan Borg and Judith Lasker, 1989. Bantam, Doubleday & Dell, New York, NY. Available from ICEA, (612) 854-8660. This comprehensive book presents fears, feelings, problems, suggestions and explanations for parents and includes a good resource guide and an extensive bibliography.

When Your Baby Dies Through Miscarriage or Stillbirth (Hope and Healing Series), by Louis A. Gamino, Ann Taylor Cooney, 2002. Augsburg Fortress Publishers. The loss of a baby is one of the most acute losses a person can experience. In this helpful book, Louis A. Gamino and Ann Taylor Cooney address both miscarriage and stillbirth and the grief implications of each. They offer comfort to mothers, fathers, and families who must find ways to recognize their bond with the child who died and then move forward with their lives.